Got the alumni magazine from UW-Madison in the mail today (it was where my husband got his Masters and I used to work) and had a total homesick meltdown.
We are now heading into month #6 of living in Silicon Valley and the honeymoon is over. After spending a weekend back in Wisconsin for a wedding, hanging out with our friends and family, driving on roads with little to no traffic, and regaining our midwestern accents surprisingly quickly, California seems even more crowded, materialistic, and lonely than it did when we first moved here.
Granted, the loneliness isn't entirely our fault. My husband and I are fairly shy, bookish types that take awhile to get to know people. Even in Madison, it took us a year and a half before we had a regular social life, and we already knew people who were living there. And there are some great things about living in California....it's just not home.
The regrets outweigh the greater good, however, because my husband has a great opportunity at The Start Up. He's gaining so much experience, and this could be something that would set us up well for the rest of our lives. We are both incredibly stubborn and focused people, and I think those qualities will get us through this.